I Wish Someone Spoke To Me About Masculinity Sooner

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What is so bad about men crying?

Why do men feel the need to suppress their emotions? Why can’t jocks cry in their locker room after losing a game without being told to man up or quit acting like a girl? What is it about men expressing even the tiniest bit of real emotions that are so threatening to other men?

Why is it important to talk about masculinity?

I am lucky to have been taught to break barriers, be a strong, educated, and financially independent woman. After a LOT of hardships, we have broken out of the outdated definitions of “being a woman”.

Why is masculinity important to me?

Boys will be boys won’t fly with me anymore! I’m done making excuses for toxic masculinity and this has drastically reduced the number of males I speak to on a regular basis. I’m here and all-in to support my male friends shift towards a healthier relationship with themselves. These past few months, I’ve made a conscious effort to do my part in enforcing mindful masculinity. Yes, I’m not a man myself, but I want to make sure the men around me can confidently say that they feel man enough. I want to have and enforce real conversations about masculinity and how its meaning has shifted over the years.


Here are some of my favorite resources that helped teach me about masculinity

  1. Man Enough by Justin Baldoni
  2. The Man Enough Podcast hosted by Justin Baldoni, Liz Plank, Jamey Heath
  3. The Good Men Project, a non-profit founded by Tom Matlack, James Houghton



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Meghana Murthy

Meghana Murthy

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